What Simone Biles Teaches Us About Black Self-Care

Last week, Simone Biles, US gymnastics Olympian, shocked the world by withdrawing from the women’s gymnastics team and several individual competitions, citing her need to prioritize her mental health at this time. While she initially described her situation as a case of the “twisties”, a mental block that gymnasts can feel while performing in the air, it was also recently released that she was also dealing with the unexpected passing of one of her aunts. In my work with clients, I have recognized that this struggle between choosing one’s own health or living according to the expectations of others is all too common, and dangerous, particularly for black women.

In my experience as a therapist, Simone’s story closely aligns with the experiences of many clients that I have worked with: those who experience Black superwoman syndrome (BSS). BSS also known as the strong black woman schema, can be seen as the black woman believing that she must be strong, and thus not vulnerable, at all times in order to be safe and successful. With BSS, there is a commitment to appearing strong, suppressing emotions, feeling obligated to help others, and succeeding with limited resources. Black women, who have historically been seen as the ones who “get things done” have also been expected to do these things with little regard for their own well-being.

On the one hand, being labeled as superwoman, or super strong like Simone Biles, might be seen as an asset. Black women can have a unique level of resiliency based upon the need to find a solution on their own-a strength that perhaps needed to be created for the black family and lineage to survive historically. However, that expectation that one must always be this “strong black woman” can also increase stress levels to toxic levels and contribute to numerous physical and mental health issues such as cardiovascular disease as well as anxiety and severe depression. In fact, cardiovascular disease kills about 50,000 African-American women annually (Heart Disease in African American Women | Go Red for Women).

So, when given the chance to be considered “strong” or choosing our health, which one should we choose? What cost do we pay when we sacrifice our own well-being for the positive regard of others?

Here are a few costs to consider. To start, we lose stamina when we don’t allow ourselves to rest-none of us have an endless supply of energy, and strength needs energy in order to sustain itself. To say that she should be strong enough to just work through it goes against what we know about how a human body operates. Secondly, it reinforces stereotypes that put us all in danger of receiving toxic levels of stress that can impact our health. In a country that has inequitable access to quality healthcare, and high mortality rates for black people, we may not be able to trust that we have a safety net should we choose to sacrifice our health, which makes it even more important that we value our own health.

Simone Biles, as a professional gymnast, shows grace and balance in her profession, but she also shows us the power of prioritizing balance in all aspects of life, which means addressing that stress. One tonic for toxic stress is self-care. Self-care is all about discovering that balance for ourselves. It is recognizing the signs when we are entering that disorientated state for ourselves, even if our family, friends, or bosses may consider it normal. Then, it is committing to doing those things that bring a sense of balance in your life. Sometimes, it is setting boundaries, as Ms. Biles demonstrated, and not allowing those stressful triggers to get to the point that it impacts our health. Other times, it might be committing to engage in one self-care practice every week, even if it is just having a quiet moment with yourself. When we engage in self-care on a consistent basis, we send a subconscious message to ourselves (and others) that we matter, and that we don’t just matter because of what we can do for others, but ultimately, we matter purely because we exist. Choosing better for ourselves and acknowledging our imperfections is an underrated strength that not only has the potential to set a profound positive precedent for our own well-being, but also for our community. Thank you, Simone, for your courage to shed light on the inner strength that we can all build to achieve the ultimate balance.

Chante’ Gamby is a writer passionate about social justice and empowering others to live their healthiest lives. You can follow her on Facebook at Fringefam, Instagram@fringegram, or on her website, www.fringefam.com.

 

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