Jacqueline Milgate, the founder of National Kiss and Make-Up Day, developed this day years ago to set aside time to reconcile relationships with loved ones and restore harmony with them. Quarrels, disagreements, arguments are all apart of life. In fact, in many ways, they are healthy. You get to express your needs, concerns, and frustrations. They allow you to see things from a different perspective. It creates a certain level of vulnerability, which can generate a deeper level of intimacy or reveal changes that need to occur in relationships. We have all had a dispute or two in our lifetime, and fortunately, many of us have had the pleasure of making up.
National Kiss and Make-up day is dedicated to righting wrongs in relationships, reconnecting with those we have lost touch with, and forgiving those who hurt us. If you are unsure how to break the ice on the road to making up, look at the list below and choose one of the following to do.
How to Observe National Kiss and Make-up Day
- Call someone you disagreed with that left your relationship torn and check in with them. Whether the fault lied with you or not, be the better person to call and say hello.
- If you are not ready to hear a person’s voice yet, send them a text message. If they respond or not, you did your part.
- Reach out to someone on social media. Many of us have reconnected with someone using one of the many social media outlets. Take a moment to jump into a long-lost friend’s inbox to get the ball rolling on a path to reuniting. If you want, you can also get creative. Design a TikTok video, send an e-card, or tag someone in an Instagram post with a message that is rooted in harmony.
- Go old school and write a letter expressing your hurt or the need to heal. If you are at a loss for words, send a card that says thinking of you.
- Be receptive to reconciling. Sometimes we are cut so deep that we tend to harbor those feelings to protect ourselves from going down the same path of hurt. However, at some point, we must be willing to receive an apology from others. It is okay if you are not ready to let bygones be bygones. If you are not, take some time to reflect on your reasons why.
- For the lovers out there, send flowers, go on a makeup date, or have a much-needed conversation about whatever it is that has you at odds.
- If issues run deeper than you can handle, seek out professional counseling for yourself and others.
The idea of reconciliation is something everyone should consider, especially during the tumultuous times we are currently living in. Forgiveness is good for the soul. Reconciliation is useful for creating peace and harmony with others. If you don’t do anything else today, take a moment to reach out to someone you believe you need to reconnect with and have a makeup session that will cleanse your soul and uplift your spirit.
Liz Lampkin is a Lifestyle, Love, and Relationships author. Follow her on social media at Liz_Lampkin.