Dear Chat Daddy,
I’m a 16-year-old female from the South Side who would like to find out from you if it is ok to date a guy who is dating another girl at my school. I’ve met this guy who is so cute, but I think he’s dating someone else. At my school, m
Most of them have two or three girlfriends and the girls are always fighting over the same guys. Is it true that all guys are unfaithful and is boyfriend-sharing normal? What should I do?
– Not Trying To Be Another Notch On His Belt
Dear Not Trying To Be Another Notch On His Belt,
No, my dear not all men are unfaithful, there are men who need and want a monogamous relationship. At this point in your life, you need to only do the right things, regardless of what others think. Your focus should be on your studies but I also understand that you want to be accepted and loved by your peers in the process.
If a young man want’s to talk to you, then you need to tell him upfront that you are looking for a good friendship because you are focusing on your studies and improving your life. No, you should not be man- sharing nor should you be fighting some other female over a guy because a relationship should be exclusive between two people who enjoy each other.
When you are mansharing, you run the risk of being placed in a pressured situation which can lead to pregnancy, HIV and abuse, simply because you wanted to please your mate. Here’s to you and all young women in your age range learning to love yourself first.
Be Encouraged.
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