In the beginning, when God made this world, He made a masterpiece: man, created in the image and likeness of God and wrapped him in bodily form. They were male and female, two entities, yet one; just as the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit are three personalities, yet one God, individuals but also a family. Oh, how the heavenly host must have watched in awe and wonder, unable to fathom what God would do next.
Then, He blessed them and said, “Be fruitful and multiply. Fill the earth and govern it. Reign….” (Genesis 1:26) Look at the power and authority the Lord instilled in His masterpiece. He created holy, self-governed rulers and made them a family. The family was designed to be a dominant influence in the earth.
Adam’s disobedience caused the transfer of authority to come into the hands of a destructive force, formulating a fallen world. So here we are today between two kingdoms. One is the kingdom of light and the other, the kingdom of darkness.
When I was pregnant with my first child, I was terrified. I saw the pitfalls of raising a family in a fallen world. I didn’t have a support system to rely upon. My mom was deceased, my father was ashamed because I was not married, my grandparents lived in another state, and I had no mentor. I didn’t have a lot of experience with children and I had zero knowledge of how to care for a baby. I read everything I could on parenthood. I was determined to give my family the best shot at life.
If you don’t have a vision for your family, you may fall prey to the ideals of the world. There are numerous videos, books, conferences, and so-called parenting gurus. To make the good choice, you have to know where you are headed.
I decided to raise my family in the Christian faith. I personally believed in God, but I was not living up to His standards. I was still slipping and sliding, doing whatever I was grown enough to do. But, I knew better was possible, and I wanted it for my family; so, I prayed and asked God to be my help and support; and He answered me! He directed the paths of my children, including daycare, friends, schools, neighborhoods, driving, activities, and so on.
As we look about today, we can see the desolation of the family. Fathers are not in the home, mothers are overwhelmed, and children are suffering from lack of direction. It appears the world is upside down, and goodwill and love are dwindling. If we refocus and allow God to lead us, we will win in the end!
Psalm 127 is speaking loudly to me right now. Like GPS, God desires to get you to your destination. He’s shouting, “turn around!” God created your family and knows the path your family needs to take. You are equipped for the journey. King Solomon said, “If God doesn’t build the house [or family], the builders only build shacks. If God doesn’t guard the city, the night watchman might as well nap. It’s useless to rise early and go to bed late and work your worried fingers to the bone. Don’t you know he enjoys giving rest to those he loves?”
God is saying, I got you! Stop trying to raise your family all by yourself. I know the plans I have for you, plans that are good and not evil to give you hope and a future. (Jeremiah 29:11) There will be some rough terrain ahead. Don’t worry, I have been this way before.
As a parent, don’t throw your hands in the air and give up. Fight for your family because you all were predestined to win. It’s a fixed fight. Take the shield of faith, which is the word of God and speak it out of your mouth to create the visual you want to see, just as God did when He created the world; we have the same power to rule and reign.
I was a single parent before I got married. It was tough at times. But, I stayed with God, and He kept us from falling. Give God thanks and ask Him for guidance. He will fortify your family Period. Nothing is too hard or impossible with God. Be patient, He is working it out.
Marnita Coleman is an author and host of The Marnita Show, a parenting show heard daily across the globe. For more information, log onto TheMarnitaShow.com.