Should You Be Embarrassed If You Are A 31 Year Old Virgin Man? Ask Dr. Karen!

When You Need Some Advice Don’t Ask Twice… Ask Dr. Karen!  
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Dear Dr. Karen:
 I am a 31-year-old virgin male. I’m overweight and don’t see myself as being worthy of a relationship as I am. But after years of neglect and ignoring myself, I am now making changes to my health that will improve my self-image.
 I live in a small town with no social life. I am considering going to an escort service just to experience what I should have experienced 15 years ago. I don’t know if I’m asking for answers or advice I just wanted to see what you think.
                                                Sexually Deprived
 Dear Sexually Deprived:
You are linking sex to money. Using an escort service is high end. If all you want is a “good time girl” a prostitute would be cheaper. I am not recommending either one because you can make better use of your money. Also, this will not give you the confidence that you are really seeking.
Loving yourself is what will make you attractive to a woman. You already know your goal. Get yourself physically fit and pursue what attracts you with passion. If you’ve been fishing in too small a pond, it may be time to move to the lake.
Question: Is There A Certain Age A Woman Or A Man Should Have Sex? What Do You Think? Is It Embarrassing For A Man Or A Woman To Admit They Are A Virgin?
***Dr. Karen R. January is an expert in youth development as well as male-female relationships.  Her new book, ¨Lessons Mama Never Taught Me,¨ profiles 10 women and the mistakes they made in parenting, love and life.  It can be purchased at  Please send your questions to Dr. Karen at

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