She Wants A Monogamous Relationship. He Wants An Open One.What Should She Do? Ask Dr. Karen!

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   Monogamous or Open?   

 
 
Dear Dr. Karen:
I’ve been in a wonderful monogamous relationship for seven months. Two weeks ago the man I love, who is charming and a great communicator announced that he is interested in having an open relationship. He wants for us to date and be free to see other people.
I’m starting to think this was his intention all along. He just wanted to make sure that we were emotionally attached and then he could easily convince me that this was a good idea for us. He has flipped the script and I and I don’t know where this idea is coming from. He says if I had a different attitude I would really enjoy it. Is this possible?
                                                       ~   Still Monogamous
Dear Monogamous:
I see why your love interest is charming and a great communicator. He has charmed and talked you into a situation that you are not sure of. The fact that you asked me, “Is this possible?” let’s me know that this is unfamiliar territory to you. An open relationship is giving each other the right to have more than one sexual partner. This is exactly what he wants. He is only interested in having a good time. You are a means to his end.
It takes two to tango. If you are ready for that dance, then go with it. If a monogamous relationship is what you want, then why are you entertaining an open relationship? If he had told you in the beginning when you first met that he wanted to be with other women, you would have run. So, what are you waiting for? Put on your track shoes and run.
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