Dear Chat Daddy,
I’m a 23-year-old woman currently, working at a wellknown advertising company. My job sent me to Las Vegas on business. During my stay, I got acquainted with one of the executives of the company and we hit it off.
He took me out to dinner and we went dancing afterwards. I got very drunk and we ended up back in my room. When I woke up, he was gone and I can’t remember if we had sex or not. I’m really nervous that he might go around the office telling people that we slept together. In fact, when I see him, he doesn’t even look at me.
I feel like I made a terrible mistake. I want to ask him but I don’t want to put myself out there like that. I love my job and I hope that my wrong actions didn’t cost me my career. What should I do?
-The Ad Reads Now Accepting Resumes
Dear The Ad Reads Now Accepting Resumes,
Wow, that you can’t remember if you’ve had sex or not is dangerous. There are many cases similar to this in which employees become personal with someone affiliated with the company just to get ahead. Sister girl, this is a major no-no.
I sincerely hope that this was not the case with you. Getting involved with office colleagues is something that I do not recommend because not only is your integrity on the line, but your business does not need to be everyone else’s.
It also speaks volumes to the fact that your priorities may not be in order and you may need to reevaluate your professionalism. I suggest that you not mention anything to the executive and why should you? He is aware of what has happened and sweetheart, your reputation is definitely in harm’s way.
Easier said than done, but don’t dwell on that. Hold your head up. I understand the nervousness, but continue to focus on your work performance and mention the ordeal to no one. Prayer and meditation would also help you put everything in perspective and give you strength in the process.
Here’s to you chalking this up to a good lesson learned and staying involved only in your goals and endeavors while maintaining an extraordinary work ethic.
Dear Chat Daddy,
I’m a 27-year-old woman who has a younger sister who is 18. She is graduating from high school this May and is currently applying for different colleges. My sister has a 4.2 G.P.A, is heavily involved in student organizations, but she is extremely militant. She claims that most mainstream colleges will be unwelcoming.
How do I relate to my sister and relay to her that she should give some colleges the benefit of the doubt?
-College Bound
Dear College Bound,
Your family should be very proud of your sister and her accomplishments. The most important part of this letter is continuing her education. Take this one a single step at a time. Find out her desired major.
Do some research comparing Historically Black Colleges and Universities and “traditional” collegiate programs in her desired field. Also, take some time to find out about the Black campus organizations at the traditional schools you feel would suit her and have a representative contact her.
Just remember, Big Sister, ultimately, this decision is hers. You can only offer your best advice and wait for her to at least meet you halfway. Here’s to a higher education in both love and scholastics for both of you.
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