I have been going with a married man for 26 years. His wife has no children. He says that is the only reason he is staying with her. Because she could not have children, he doesn’t want to hurt her –wants to protect her feelin
Dear Gwendolyn: I have been going with a married man for 26 years. His wife has no children. He says that is the only reason he is staying with her. Because she could not have children, he doesn’t want to hurt her –wants to protect her feelings.
She thinks her husband and I are just long time old schoolmates. Actually, as mentioned, we are lovers. I was once pregnant by him, and he pushed me down a flight of stairs and I lost the baby. He said, “If I can’t have children with my wife, then I won’t have children.”
However, I continued to date him.
My problem is: My car needs a new motor. I am without transportation, and my boyfriend agreed to give me a ride to work. I accepted, but I think by now he should tell his wife about us and that she should be made to sit on the back seat while I sit next to him on the front seat.
Gwendolyn, what do you think? Liz
Dear Liz: I think you are crazy. Yes, you have a problem, but I think your problem is bigger than you realize. You have a mental problem.
Let me tell you this: You have invested 26 years (wow) into a man who stayed with his wife. I feel you may not be the only outside woman in his life. Think about it. Married men who court often have a woman on every block and even one across the street. My advice to you is to forget about those 26 years and leave this relationship. You are coming out of this with nothing – not even a new set of bed sheets, nothing. As to not wanting to sit in the back, you might as well. You are not wanted in the front.
Liz, move on with your life. As for transportation to work, ride the bus – or walk.
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