Dear Chat Daddy,
My husband and I have been married now for nine years and we have a 3-month-old son. I have been noticing some changes in him and my gut feeling tells me that he has cheated on me. My husband doesn’t want to make love the way we us
Dear Chat Daddy, My husband and I have been married now for nine years and we have a 3-month-old son. I have been noticing some changes in him, and my gut feeling tells me that he has cheated on me. My husband doesn’t want to make love the way we used to, and he is overly critical about everything in our household. Chat Daddy, to make matters worse, I recently studied his cell phone bill and realized that he has been calling this one particular number numerous times. The first time I called the number, a woman answered, but I just hung up. I am thinking about doing it a second time, but every time I get ready to, I tighten up and become so full with raging emotions. I want to confront him, but I don’t know what to do and how to go about bringing it up. What should I do? – Don’t Get It Twisted, You’re My Husband
Dear Don’t Get It Twisted, You’re My Husband, Sweetheart, what a tricky situation. Anytime one mate thinks that the other might be cheating, it can put the relationship under a tremendous strain. Before you have any other extended conversation with this woman on the other side of the telephone, your primary point of reference is obvious: your man. It sounds to me like trouble is brewing here and, as heartbreaking as it is, his behavior is a telltale sign of cheating. I definitely think that you should question him about the phone number. Anytime someone is constantly being overly critical of you and seems to be aloof when it comes down to you, it really shows a lack of interest and that something may be going on. Simply communicate with him and tell how you honestly feel. If he doesn’t seem at all concerned in what you have to say, then you may want to seriously re-evaluate your relationship. You both may need to see a marriage counselor who can help you sort out some of the issues. You have been together for this long, I would hate to see your relationship end over adultery. Most importantly raising your son together is key. Be encouraged.
Dear Chat Daddy, I’m a 33-year-old female with a very high sex drive, and I have yet to find a person (male or female) who can satisfy me sexually. I have used all of my sick and vacation days at work this year just to have sex. I can have sex several times a day and still not be satisfied. Chat Daddy, do you think I have a problem and do I need to see a doctor about this? -Longing To Be Satisfied
Dear Longing To Be Satisfied, Oh my! Sister girl you need to see somebody because it seems to me that you are losing your mind over sex. I hope you have been using protection while on your quest of finding someone who can get you to your ultimate point of satisfaction. You obviously have an extremely intense libido, and that’s cool because women have varying degrees of interest in sex, ranging from no interest at all to levels that can exceed normal desire. In your case, though, your sex drive seems to be off the chain. Please make an appointment with your doctor or a sex therapist to discuss your issue. You could be a victim of nymphomania, a psychological disorder peculiar to women who are obsessed with sex and who have an overactive libido. Anytime your sex drive is preventing you from living a normal life then your behavior towards sex is excessive, by any standards. Here’s to you learning to love yourself while you redirect your destiny with a newfound energy of comfort and peace within your soul.
Art “Chat Daddy” Sims can be reached via email at [email protected].
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