When You Need Some Advice Don’t Ask Twice… Ask Dr. Karen!

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Dear Dr. Karen:

I worked with a guy for 10 years. During this time, we were just good friends. After my divorce I learned the feelings between us were more than friendship. He was still married, but promised we would be together after his son graduated.

His son has graduated and there has just been one excuse after another why he is not leaving his wife. I don’t want to move on with my life without him, but on the other hand, I’m tired of his excuses. What should I do to get him to open his eyes and see what he’s missing?

                                                                                    Waiting

 Dear Waiting:

 Why are you involved in another woman’s marriage? This man may have been a “gentleman” for the 10 years you were friends, but after your divorce he became a man who cheats on his wife and makes empty promises to another woman.

 You want him to open his eyes and see what he’s missing. Why not open yours and see what you are missing. He’s not missing anything. He has a wife at home and a mistress on the side. You don’t want to move on without him, then stay and keep listening to the excuses!

 *** If a man or woman tells you he’s getting a divorce, should you believe it or move on?

***Dr. Karen R. January is an expert in youth development as well as male-female relationships.  Her book, ¨Lessons Mama Never Taught Me,¨ profiles 10 women and the mistakes they made in parenting, love and life.  It can be purchased at Amazon.com.  Please send your questions to Dr. Karen at askdrjanuary@gmail.com.

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