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Dear Dr. Karen:
I met my boyfriend on an online dating service several months ago. Recently, I went to the website to take my profile off. Out of curiosity, I wanted to see if my boyfriend was still there and it was. When I mentioned it to him, he said he would take his profile off.
That should have been the end of it but I decided to test him. I created a fake profile with a picture of an attractive woman. I e-mailed him and he didn’t respond. So I e-mailed him again and still no response. I told him that I was new to the site, thought he was attractive, and maybe we could meet for a drink. I asked him if he was seeing anyone. He said he had met someone who he might be serious about. I asked him again if he wanted to meet and eventually he said maybe. I confronted him about him about still being on-line. I told him that I was the girl that wanted to meet him for a drink. He got really angry and now I think I blew it with him.
You wanted to play “catch me if you can” with him. What you did is called entrapment. You talked a person into committing a crime that the person was not previously willing to commit. In this case he is innocent. He told you he had met someone that he was serious about, but that wasn’t enough for you.
You set him up and got exactly what you deserved! You played the game and lost. The only crime that was committed was by you. You proved beyond a shadow of doubt that by nature you are a jealous person.
***Dr. Karen R. January is an expert in youth development as well as male-female relationships. Her new book, ¨Lessons Mama Never Taught Me,¨ profiles 10 women and the mistakes they made in parenting, love and life. It can be purchased at Amazon.com. Please send your questions to Dr. Karen at firstname.lastname@example.org.
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