When You Need Some Advice Don’t Ask Twice… Ask Dr. Karen!
Dear Dr. Karen:
My wife and I have been married for (4) years. She is an alcoholic and recently lost her license for drunk driving. We have two kids that are being affected by our constant arguments and knowing that their mom drinks too much. The other night she actually dropped our son on his head. When she drinks she gets angry and tries to fight me.
I gave her an ultimatum and she vowed to quit drinking forever. She checked into rehab and did counseling. Unfortunately this has not helped and she has begun drinking again. I hate to give up on her after only (4) years of marriage. I don’t believe in divorce and need to know if there is another solution to her drinking problem?
~ Stay or Go
Dear Stay or Go:
Have you been drinking too? You knowingly married an alcoholic in hopes of what, changing her? You cannot change someone who does not want to change. You’ve tried patience, understanding, rehab, and counseling and this has not helped.
You cannot expect a different outcome, unless you try a different strategy. Your wife is not adding to the success of the marriage and the children are being exposed to a dangerous dysfunctional environment. You say you don’t believe in divorce but divorce exists for a reason. Is dropping your son on his head reason enough to leave?
***Dr. Karen R. January is an expert in youth development as well as male-female relationships. Her new book, ¨Lessons Mama Never Taught Me,¨ profiles 10 women and the mistakes they made in parenting, love and life. It can be purchased at Amazon.com. Please send your questions to Dr. Karen at firstname.lastname@example.org.
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