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When You Need Some Advice Don’t Ask Twice… Ask Dr. Karen    

Should You Have To Be  Prisoner In Your Own Body?          

Dear Dr. Karen:

I am a 26 year old, gay male living a straight life. I am a college graduate and have my dream job, and a comfortable condo. People say I have it all but they don’t know the pain that is inside of me. I have been through counseling hoping that I could change. I’ve even been to the church for help. That left me feeling worse and even more depressed. I was hoping and praying that I could change. No matter how hard I have tried, I’m still attracted to men.

I have been involved with a younger man who is 18 years old. Recently, He has decided to move to another city. He knows how much I care from him but he is leaving anyway. I am so unhappy and feel that no one knows the hell I am going through. I cannot continue to live my life this way. I feel like a prisoner in my own body. I want to change but I don’t know how.

                                                                                  ~  Confused                                                                                                                   

 Dear Confused:

Stop tormenting yourself and running away from who you are. To thine own self be true! When your inner and outer world is not in alignment the result is conflict. Happiness will be hard to find whether you are gay or straight.

You cannot talk yourself out of being gay. It is foolish to continue pretending you’re something you’re not. It isn’t working for you. You cannot live in two worlds. It is your choice to live as a prisoner or be free. You have the key.

Start by seeking professional services for treatment. A doctor can recommend anti-depressant that will help to minimize your feelings of hopelessness you are experiencing. There is support and self-help groups in your community that address your concerns and help you sort out your feelings.

                                                                                     ~   Best To You! 

***Disclaimer “The advice offered in this column is not intended to replace or substitute for any professional, financial, medical, legal, or other professional advice. Dr. Karen January, the newspaper and publisher are not responsible for the outcome or results of following any advice in any given situation. You, and only you, are completely responsible for your actions.” Due to the large number of letters received, there is no guarantee that your question will be published.

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