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When You Need Some Advice Don’t Ask Twice… Ask Dr. Karen!

Dear Dr. Karen:

 I’m 45 years old and have been single for three years since my husband’s death. I’m interested in dating again but things seems so much different now. I feel like a schoolgirl starting all over again.

 I’m a Social Worker and several weeks ago I had to contact a psychologist from another school district. I needed some information regarding a student that had just transferred to my school. The conversation went longer than expected, which was a good thing. We found out we were both single and near the same age.

He suggested we exchange e-mails and send each other a picture. I know it’s only natural to want to see what a person looks like. I sent him my photo and I have not heard from him since. I think I’m a nice looking woman and can’t understand why he hasn’t responded. Do you think I should call him?

                                                               ~  Wondering                                                                                                                                      

Dear Wondering:

Don’t you dare call that man! You followed through on the agreement that was discussed and sent your picture. He is the one who reneged. We have no way of knowing why he has not responded to you. We can only speculate. As the saying goes “the ball is in his court now.” He has your e-mail and your work number. If you don’t hear from him it only means he was not interested.

By not honoring the agreement, he has shown that he is inconsiderate and thoughtless. Good riddance. You deserve better. Don’t let this one experience discourage you from moving forward and finding love. There will be other opportunities. Just know that the rules of dating are still the same; as you have just learned. There will be men who are sincere and then there will be those little boys that still want to play silly childish games. Just beware! All that glitters is not gold!

***Dr. Karen R. January is an expert in youth development as well as male-female relationships.  Her new book, ¨Lessons Mama Never Taught Me,¨ profiles 10 women and the mistakes they made in parenting, love and life.  It can be purchased at Amazon.com.  Please send your questions to Dr. Karen at askdrjanuary@gmail.com.

Visit her website: www.drkaykay.com  FB: drkayj  Twitter: @drkjanuary

***Disclaimer “The advice offered in this column is not intended to replace or substitute for any professional, financial, medical, legal, or other professional advice. Dr. Karen January, the newspaper and publisher are not responsible for the outcome or results of following any advice in any given situation. You, and only you, are completely responsible for your actions.” Due to the large number of letters received, there is no guarantee that your question will be published.

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