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Dear Dr. Karen:
I have been living with my boyfriend for eight years. We have a good relationship and I’m hoping we will be married soon. The problem is my future mother-in-law. This woman is the mother from hell. She is the most manipulative, controlling and domineering person I have ever met. There are not enough words in the dictionary to describe her.
She thinks her only son is supposed to be available 24-7. He constantly gets calls and texts from her all day long. There seems to be no end to her demands. If it isn’t something that needs fixing , it’s someplace she has to go and he is expected to drive her there. She acts like she can’t function without him.
His mother has a husband but turns to her baby boy for everything. In return she does everything for him. Whatever he wants or needs. He is so spoiled. When we get married I’m concerned that things are going to be worse.
~ Mama Drama
Dear Mama Drama:
The first problem is, you have been playing house with your boyfriend for (8) years. How can your future mother-in-law or anyone else take you seriously? She probably does not see you as a serious girlfriend or wife for her precious son.
The second problem as you stated, is that you’re going to be married soon. How soon? Eight years have already lapsed. There is an old saying. Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free. It seems like your boyfriend has no urgency to ring those wedding bells. Why should he when he is getting the milk for free. He doesn’t need you. He’s got a mama who caters to his every need. It is obvious the umbilical cord is still attached and she has no intention of cutting it.
You have invested way too much time with this mama’s boy. He is not going to grow up. In the words of Beyonce he should have put a ring on it and he hasn’t. You can do one of two things. If you want a man then cut your (8) year umbilical cord with him. If you want a boy then marry him and join forces with his mother and you both can jointly babysit your emotionally dependent baby boy.
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Dr. Karen R. January is an expert in youth development as well as male-female relationships. Her new book, ¨Lessons Mama Never Taught Me,¨ profiles 10 women and the mistakes they made in parenting, love and life. It can be purchased at Amazon.com. Please send your questions to Dr. Karen at email@example.com.