1. Accept responsibility.
One of the first and fastest ways to own your life is to take responsibility for your life. The good, the bad, the ugly — it’s all on you! Our perspectives, attitudes, reactions, feelings, thoughts, beliefs… these are all things that we control ourselves. This is an amazing thing because it means that you can create the life you want since you are at the wheel.
“Taking responsibility for being exactly where you are gives you the power to be exactly where you want to be.” — Unknown
2. Stop blaming.
It’s very easy to blame sometimes, especially since most of us have some sort of experience of being treated wrongly or unfairly as children. Adults aren’t perfect, and some of them are total screw ups, but we can’t forever let the mistakes of others be an excuse for us not living the life we want. Likewise, we can’t let things like a failed marriage or a bad past decision have any power over our today. Every morning, you have a clean slate. No one can stop you from being the person that you want to be or living the life you desire to live, unless you grant them that power.
This is a huge task, usually one that requires a lifetime of repeating. Holding onto past hurts only holds you back from living the life you truly want. By holding a grudge, you are harboring negative energy, which will only poison you. Sometimes, the ones we hold the most grudges against are ourselves, for past mistakes and actions we deeply regret. You can’t live a happy life if at some subconscious level you don’t believe you deserve one. Everything we experience, even the bad, helps us grow in some way. Forgive others and yourself and instead be grateful for the lessons you’ve gained.
4. Change your attitude.
Your attitude plays more importance on your quality of life than you may think. Ever notice when you have a bad attitude that your day just seems to keep getting worse? It’s because you’re a ball of negative energy walking around collecting more nearby negative energy! When you force yourself to be in a good mood (and yes, many days it requires force) and you look for the good things in your day, what happens is that you bring more good things to you. Don’t waste another day pushing the good things away!
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