Is there really a “right” way to have an argument?
“Massive, all-out fights are bad for you,” says Jonathan Alpert, a psychotherapist. “On the other hand, learning to have good conversations keeps your relationship healthy.”
Here’s how to actually benefit as a couple from an argument:
If you’re so upset that you can’t even think straight, much less keep your voice down, it’s not not a good time to have a conversation. You’re better off taking a step back, going into another room, going for a walk, or simply sitting down and breathing.
“It’s next to impossible to be logical, let alone empathetic, in a heightened state,” Alpert says.