Dear Chat Daddy,
I’m a 30-year-old male who is currently in school and working full time. When I was a teenager, I lived the life of a criminal. Most of my bad behavior came as a result of both of my parents working and not being home and the peo
Dear Chat Daddy,
I’m a 30-year-old male who is currently in school and working full time. When I was a teenager, I lived the life of a criminal. Most of my bad behavior came as a result of both of my parents working and not being home and the people I hung out with from the ‘hood, so I had to raise myself. I found myself in and out of youth detention centers until about four years ago and I vowed to never go back to that lifestyle. Recently, I went back to my old neighborhood just to visit one of my closest childhood friends. To my surprise, I was the only one who had changed. My friend was still living at home in his mother’s basement doing the same old things. He asked me what I was doing now and I proudly told about my new life––with a job and school. Since that reunion, he has been hating on me to everybody with nothing but negative things to say about me. What’s wrong with wanting more out of life and why is he hating on me for doing better?
-We Go Way Back
Dear We Go Way Back,
My brother, congratulations on turning your life around. Change for the better is always good but comes with some lessons, and you are learning them now. First of all, understand that living an abundant, fulfilled life is your birthright. The answer to your letter is easy. Haters never stop hating, and they will always hate on those who are making their dreams a reality. However, that’s their job. Let them do it. Don’t let other people’s negative challenges, comments and limited thinking keep you from making yourself the best person you can be. As part of the test, people will attempt to destroy your integrity and self-confidence. Don’t let them steal your joy. You need to discover an inner circle of friends who have your best interest at heart. Place yourself only in the company of the right people, places and things. Letting go of your past life was the best thing you could have done for yourself. Never let other people make you feel inferior about your past or the journey you are on to future success. Here’s to you making effective decisions towards your own personal growth in life. Be encouraged.
Copyright 2009 Chicago Defender. All rights reserved. This material may not be published, broadcast, rewritten, or redistributed.