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Dear Chat Daddy,

I am a 41-year-old female who has finally met the man of my dreams. He is 50-years-old, never been married, doesn’t have any children and owns his own business. He and I met at the wedding reception of a mutual friend. We have been dating for two years now. Our relationship started out as just friends, but eventually it progressed to more. After about eight months of being together, we finally became intimate. He recently proposed marriage to me, but I am concerned with the fact that he is as old as he is and he has never been married. When I asked him ‘why me?’ he responded that he felt comfortable with me and that I would make a perfect wife. Chat Daddy, do you feel that there could be something wrong with this picture? Please advise me.

-At Last

Dear At Last,

Sister, stop being so skeptical about your man. No, I don’t feel that there is anything wrong with this picture. Men are very much like women when it comes to wanting to wait for the right person to come along before jumping into a committed relationship. The answer to your problem is simple: When a man is ready for a committed relationship, his actions will speak louder than his words.

If you two have had a relationship that is being built on more than just intimacy, then you are surely on the right road to having longevity in this relationship. When a man is indeed comfortable with himself and his woman then, yes, he is ready to take the relationship to the next level. Getting married is a big investment towards spending the rest of your lives together, so making the right choice is most important.

Have you every considered that maybe you are the first woman who has made him feel comfortable and complete in his life’s journey? Here’s to you both understanding that finding your true love just might take time, but once you find each other, may you both have a much higher place of love and understanding while growing old together. Enjoy.

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