- Created on 07 November 2013
JACKSONVILLE, Florida (AP) – A Duval County School Board member has formally requested that the board consider changing the name of Nathan B. Forrest High School – whose namesake was the first Grand Wizard of the Ku Klux Klan.
The Times Union reports that on Tuesday, board member Connie Hall submitted a letter formally requesting renaming of the school. Another meeting on the issue is scheduled for Friday. The seven board members are expected to have a discussion on the matter and instruct the superintendent to formally set up procedures for possibly renaming the school, which will include soliciting community input.
"This has been in the community for quite some time, too long," Hall said. "It definitely needs to be addressed, one way or another."
Supporters of keeping the name say Forrest later disassociated himself from the Klan and objected to the group's activities.
"He was not the racist monster the media would lead you to believe he is," said Barbie LangdonRatliff, a 1976 Forrest High graduate.
Others say Forrest (pictured above) was a slave owner, slave catcher and a leader in the Confederate Army who helped found the KKK and that removing the name would help heal wounds from the past and respect today's community wish for a different name.
Wells Todd, a community member who supports a name change, said the school should be renamed to something that does not embarrass Jacksonville.
"This has gotten as far as Russia and Mexico; people all over the world are looking at us," he said.
Another supporter of a name change, Damon Jameson, agreed. "It's not just the school; it's the reputation of our city. ... If we're going to be the bold, new city of the South we need to stop kidding ourselves."
Listen to Roland Martin talk about the school's name with Omothya Richmond here.
- Created on 06 November 2013
After years of bullying and racist jokes, 19-year-old Keisha Austin decided to ditch her Black-sounding name for something more neutral. According to reports, the Kansas City, MO teen officially changed her name to Kylie.
“It’s like they assumed that I must be a certain kind of girl,” she told the Kansas City Star. “Like, my name is Keisha so they think they know something about me, and it always felt negative.”
The paper reports that kids in her predominantly White neighborhood would ask if there “was a ‘La’ or a ‘Sha’ in front of her name,” and a teacher “once asked if there was a dollar sign in her name, like the singer Ke$ha.”
Her mother Cristy, a Caucasian woman, said she named her biracial daughter Keisha because to her, it represented a “strong, feminine, beautiful black woman.”
“I saw it as a source of pride,” the single mom said. “I wanted her to have that.”
Unfortunately for Keisha-turned-Kylie, she never found pride or cultural significance in her birth name. She said Keisha was a beautiful, but it just didn’t fit her.
“It’s not something I take lightly,” she said, fighting back tears. “I put a lot of thought into it. I don’t believe you should just change your name or your face or anything like that on a whim. I didn’t want to change my name because I didn’t like it. I wanted to change my name because it didn’t feel comfortable. I don’t connect to it. I didn’t feel like myself, but I never want any girls named Keisha, or any name like that, to feel hurt or sad by it.”
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Cristy decided to make her daughter’s wish come true as an early Christmas present.
“It felt like a gift I gave to her, and she was returning it,” she said. “Keisha was the only name I ever thought of, and when I talked to her in my belly, I talked to Keisha. But she’s still the same person, regardless of her name.”
She added, “Her happiness is what is most important to me. I love and support her, and whatever she has to do to feel good on the inside, I have to be okay with that.”
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- Created on 04 November 2013
I've read three dating advice books in my entire life:
He's Just Not That Into You -- which after I read it, made me think no guy I dated was actually, 100 percent, into me.
Why Men Love Bitches -- which also, made me feel as though any guy I dated after was not really into me.
And, Patti Stanger's book, which the only advice I actually remember from it had to do with her saying that guys don't want to date girls who air their relationship stories out to the world. So, as a dating blogger and author of the e-Book, All My Friends Are Engaged, it looks like I'm doomed. Thanks, Patti.
So, do me a favor. Will you? Take your stack of worn-out, tear-stained, dating advice books and throw them out. Toss them in the recycling bin, use them as coasters on your living room table, glue them on top of each other and make them into a sturdy step stool. Just don't read them anymore, okay?
All they'll do is twist your thoughts, your judgments and your actions around like a tangled computer chord, leaving you acting like some kind of robotic monster who says and does things completely out of character.
Remember, only, these tips:
1. If you want to meet new people (potential dates) you need to actually try. Stop letting your couch cushions and your Netflix account and your Saturday girl's nights (where you ONLY dance and talk to each other) keep on inhibiting you from meeting people. Go to a meet-up event. Start shaking hands with strangers. Set up an online account on a website you're open to giving a try. Just start by stopping to look down at your phone all the time while you're out in public and say hello more.
2. If it's not passionate, I-can't-stop-thinking-about-you kind of love, what's the point? Too many things in life are just mundane and blasé, love shouldn't be. The person who latches onto your heart should make you feel extraordinary. There's absolutely no point in settling down just to settle.
3. Write down a list of things you love in this world and a list of things that bother you. Start to understand who you are a bit more and then, after it's spelled out on paper, begin to love yourself in such an unconditional way. Own up to the quirks and habits and hobbies that make you, you. That way, when someone enters your life, you'll be able to dazzle them with confidence.
4. Find an example. Your parents. Friends of yours. The 96-year-old couple in matching burgundy sweaters splitting French toast at the diner across the street, looking at each other like they just met for the first time. Find comfort in knowing that that crazy little thing called love does, in fact, exist.
5. If it doesn't feel right, it's not. Don't ignore the red flags that wave frantically at you, like a teenager trying to catch the attention of a member of One Direction, on dates 1-3.
6. Never say you're too busy for love. Because you're not. It's an excuse. It's one of those things we tell ourselves because we desperately want to believe it. If you want something bad enough, you'll somehow find the time to do it, to have it, to hold onto it.
7. Treat love like you do books. When it gets boring, or too complicated, put it down. Skip to the end.
8. If by date #4, you're questioning your interest in a person, call it quits. Don't waste time letting something drag on that's not meant to be -- likewise, don't force something that's not meant to be.
9. Don't hold back. Talk about whatever you want. Order your favorite dish of chicken parm and eat it on a first date. If you put on a costume and adopt someone else's personality, you're just delaying the inevitable: the person getting to know the real you. If you're not sure who the real you is, that's okay, please refer back to #3.
10. Do only what feels right. If you want to text the person after the date to say thank you for the nice night out, or after the third date give them a smooch goodbye, do it. The worst part of doing a case study on shredded love is having your memories corrupted by all the things you wish you did.
- Created on 04 November 2013
Jackson Black (pictured left) of Craigsville, Va., is coming under fire for dressing as a Klansman for Halloween, and apparently, the costume is a family tradition, according to WHSV.
"My brother ha[d] [worn the costume] when he was in kindergarten and when he was 13," Mother Jessica Black (pictured right) said, so when 7-year-old Jackson wanted to wear the garments for trick-o-treating, Black agreed to make him the costume.
According to Jackson, he wanted to dress as a Klan member "['cause] it was cool." He claims he saw the outfit in the "Fried Green Tomatoes" movie.
Still, his mom reportedly warned him about the potential backlash.
"I did tell him that if you do it, you know there's going to be people talking about you. There's going to be people saying bad things about you when you do wear it," Black added.
Understandably, neighbors who saw the costume were appalled. "I just think it's really sad that a kid is being taught that, that young, because they don't know any better. You don't hear that much about it," said Wendi Sprouse.
Not only does wearing the costume run in the family, Ms. Black also supports the Klan's pro-Aryan stance. She further defended it by noting the group's charity.
"It's supposed to be White with White. Black with Black. Man with woman and all of that. That's what the KKK stands for. The KKK every year raises money to donate to the St. Jude's," she said.
And when asked if he would still wear the costume knowing that it offends some people, Jackson simply replied with "Yes."