I am a 65-year-old retired woman under disability in 2000, having worked 21 years as a Custom Rep. for a large newspaper in another state. I was living in a very nice two bedroom and two baths, with nice friends and a good church.
Dear Gwendolyn: I am a 65-year-old retired woman under disability in 2000, having worked 21 years as a Custom Rep. for a large newspaper in another state. I was living in a very nice two bedroom and two baths, with nice friends and a good church. But my mother was 85 years old, and she wanted me to come take care of her although my three sisters and a jailbird brother, lots of grandchildren and four great grandchildren lived in the house with her. There was a 30-something grandson who didn’t work, but my mother assured me they were all leaving. Well, the granddaughter with the kids moved out, my three sisters moved out, but the 30-year-old grandson is still here with his jailbird dad. I am tired of feeding my brother and his son. I also worry about my jailbird brother stealing and hiding stolen goods here, coming and going all hours of the night. Gwendolyn, do I put these people out? -Janice
Dear Janice: I read your letter twice and realize that you do have a serious problem. Because the house is not your house but possibly belongs to your mother, then you may not have the legal authority to evict your brother and his son. However, look into this with your public attorneys that are free because they are employed by the city to assist those in need of legal advice or services. Years ago, my parents had a nice friend. He was such a nice person. However, his brother was the caregiver of his mother. When he realized that his brother was not properly caring for their mother, he tried to have her put into a nursing home facility. The two of them got into a fight, and his brother killed him. I said this to warn you of the seriousness of your situation. Be careful, Janice. Do what you can for your mother and you may have no recourse except to feed your jailbird brother and his 30-something-year-old son. It’s hard. I have been there, and I know.
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