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When You Need Some Advice Don’t Ask Twice… Ask Dr. Karen!  

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Dear Dr. Karen:

I have been intimately involved with a woman for three months. I recently found out that she has also been in a relationship with another man for seven months. I am that other man. We started out as friends and we enjoy each other’s company and I really don’t want to lose that.

I am mature and wise enough to know that I’m being played and the entire relationship is a lost cause. I told her I wanted an exclusive relationship. I feel I have the right to know what the future holds for me. I gave her an ultimatum and she said, “she would think about”. There has been no answer yet.

                                                               ~  Waiting

Dear Waiting:

Guess what? There isn’t going to be an answer. This girl just wants to have fun. She has made it clear that she does not want to be tied down.

There’s no point in giving you an answer because you already know. When a relationship is going nowhere, you need to end it. Continuing takes away the opportunity of you finding the right person. In addition, ending a wrong relationship gives you the courage to end wrong relationships in the future. Get to steppin! 

Why do we hold onto relationships that we know are going nowhere? Why do we want someone that doesn’t want us? There is more than one star in the sky. Shoot for another one!

***Dr. Karen R. January is an expert in youth development as well as male-female relationships.  Her new book, ¨Lessons Mama Never Taught Me,¨ profiles 10 women and the mistakes they made in parenting, love and life.  It can be purchased at Amazon.com.  Please send your questions to Dr. Karen at askdrjanuary@gmail.com.

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