The weekend before Thanksgiving (as in just a few weeks ago) I stood in a cemetery and watched them lower my grandmother into the ground. Twenty-four and a half years earlier, I did the same thing at the same grave as they lowered my mother. How do I grieve over the Holidays after such profound losses?
Thankfully, both losses were not sudden so I had some time to prepare myself emotionally before they left us. Here are a few steps I’ve taken to handle grieving over the Holidays.
- The first thing I did was I tried to focus on the wonderful, warm and funny memories we shared. I shared several personal stories on social media about my grandmother right after she passed away. I posted a couple photos as well.
I decided to spend some of the Thanksgiving weekend celebrating with caring people, but I also scheduled time alone for personal reflection. I thought that the balance would be healthy so that I would not be totally isolated from everyone. I was invited to celebrate Thanksgiving for the entire weekend elsewhere, but it would have been too much to do so soon after such a significant loss.
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