Dear Chat Daddy, I’m ready for a committed relationship with a good man. I’m a 30-year-old single woman in good shape, employed, outgoing and have been told by many men that I’m very attractive. Whenever I go out, guys line up just to bu
Dear Chat Daddy,
I’m ready for a committed relationship with a good man. I’m a 30-year-old single woman in good shape, employed, outgoing and have been told by many men that I’m very attractive. Whenever I go out, guys line up just to buy me dinner, drinks and to give me their numbers. But I’ve found most of them to be very empty inside and most of them are married and/or only want a booty call from me. I’m starting to get sick of being in empty relationships. How does one end the vicious cycle of one-night stands, liars and booty callers?
-Trying to Break the Chain of Fools Cycle
Dear Trying to Break the Chain of Fools Cycle,
My answer is quite simple, my dear. You must stop accepting the offers and calls from people whom you feel are empty. Every time you accept their various forms of communications (dinner dates, calls, texts, e-mails and, yes, even eye contact), you are clearly saying that their behavior is acceptable knowing damn well that this is not acceptable. Once you stop accepting things it will change the way you deal with meeting men. Try having open and honest communications by informing the men you meet that you are only interested in a committed relationship that is not based on lies, misunderstanding and just-for-the-moment sexual romps. Then try sticking to your principles while the relationship is developing. Most people don’t have the heart to tell the truth about their personal matters–like if they are married or are in another committed relationship. If you don’t want to end up being one of those sisters who will accept any and everything for the sake of having a man then you need to check them from the very beginning of the so-called relationship. Here’s to you receiving the man of your dreams and desires in due time. Be strong.
Art “Chat Daddy” Sims can be reached via e-mail at firstname.lastname@example.org.
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