Dear Chat Daddy, I am a frustrated 30-year-old male. Every year I make New Year’s resolutions for myself in regards to the things that I want to change in my life.
Dear Chat Daddy,
I am a frustrated 30-year-old male. Every year I make New Year’s resolutions for myself in regards to the things that I want to change in my life. But for some reason or another, I manage to still find myself not really where I would like to be. I end up still struggling financially and not having the things that are my heart’s desire. I am not sure what is going on. Can you please give insight on how to make my dreams come true?
-Still Stuck Behind The Eight Ball
Dear Still Stuck Behind The Eight Ball,
Brother, you must start going into the new year with a mindset and spirit of change. If you find yourself stagnant, then that’s your fault. The only way that you’re going to grow is by putting yourself in positive situations that will allow for that to happen. Try enrolling in school or other activities that can create a positive change in your life. So many people are stuck in life because they have no vision about how great they can be. Take it from me. If you see yourself successful, then that’s exactly what you will be. Take some time to do some meditation and seriously think about what your plan is, and then write it down. Remember, when you write something down, you validate it and it begins to materialize. Set appropriate steps and goals for yourself and give yourself deadlines. This strategy will allow you to be held accountable. Here’s to you reaching new heights and finding your shine in 2009. Be encouraged.
Dear Chat Daddy,
I really need your help. I am an employed 36-year-old female and I enjoy a wonderful relationship with my fiance of four years. However, he just can’t seem to get his act together in terms of keeping a job. Within the past year, he has had 3 jobs and lately feels the need to constantly hang out in the streets. We have been living together for two years now, and our rent is two months behind. I am at my wit’s end. I really want to be with him, but I just don’t know about this. What should I do?
-Love Don’t Pay The Rent
Dear Love Don’t Pay The Rent,
Ok, sweetheart. I have just one question: Why are you involved with a man who job-hops the way he does? This is a definite red flag, and you seriously need to take a step back and reevaluate your relationship with this person. Do you honestly want to build a life with someone who is this frivolous when it comes to making a living and paying his bills? My answer would be absolutely not. In this day and age, everyone of legal working age needs to have a job. Why is he living with you in the first place? What can he bring to the table? I know you are in love, but cut your losses now and move on. Be encouraged.
Art “Chat Daddy” Sims can be reached via e-mail at email@example.com.
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