Dear Chat Daddy,
I am a 26-year-old woman who is engaged to a wonderful man. The problem is that he has been successful at owning his own investment consulting firm, but due to the current economic crisis, business hasn’t been great for the past si
Dear Chat Daddy, I am a 26-year-old woman who is engaged to a wonderful man. The problem is that he has been successful at owning his own investment consulting firm, but due to the current economic crisis, business hasn’t been great for the past six months. I am worried that he won’t be able to provide for our household because I am looking forward to a financially comfortable future. I want the finer things in life and living luxuriously has always been a dream of mine. Chat Daddy, I don’t know what to do because I love him very much and cannot see myself without him in my life. Please help. -Want To Live My Life Like It’s Golden
Dear Want To Live My Life Like It’s Golden, Ok, sweetheart. I have just one question: Are you willing to work in order to keep and maintain your loving relationship? What are you willing to do in order to fulfill the need to be financially secure? Marriage is team work, compromise and sacrifice. Because of the economic dilemma we are living in, I would suggest that you really consider taking on a full-time job in order for the two of you to both provide for the household. Two incomes are definitely better than one, and I’m sure your soon-to-be hubby would agree. While it is great to live luxuriously, hard work and determination are key components in order to obtain that goal. Here’s to you and your man finding a happy medium and living the financially free life the two of you deserve. Be encouraged.
Dear Chat Daddy, I am a 32-year-old man with a successful professional life. About a year ago, I met a 36-year-old woman I thought would be my life partner and mate. Things were going great, so I thought, until she suddenly broke up with me for no apparent reason at all. Now, every time I run into her on the social scene or otherwise, she is always badmouthing me to her friends. I am trying to ignore this, however, it is really starting to wear on me. She constantly goes around telling people that I was no good sexually and could never keep a woman satisfied. Chat Daddy, what should I do? -Ready To Slap Her
Dear Ready To Slap Her, Wow, what a hot mess this is. How unfortunate that you had to run into an immature woman. I would suggest that you count your blessings and be thankful that she is indeed out of your life. Try going to different places and events where she doesn’t frequent. The old adage of “out of sight, out of mind” can apply here. She needs help. Does everything really boil down to sex? Absolutely not. Anytime a woman of her age finds the time to go around badmouthing an ex, it becomes extremely obvious that she has no life of her own. If you are a man of integrity and good quality, sex is not the end-all-be-all, and the right woman will come along. Be encouraged.
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