Dear Chat Daddy, My son needs a role model

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Welcome to the 79th Annual Bud Billiken Day Parade. Congratulations are in order to our Bud Billiken Day King & Queen and the entire royal court on a job well done. I’m so proud of you! I hope that this year’s parade will inspire all our youth

Welcome to the 79th Annual Bud Billiken Day Parade. Congratulations are in order to our Bud Billiken Day King and Queen and the entire royal court on a job well done. I’m so proud of you! I hope that this year’s parade will inspire all our youth to stay in school, and continue to do your personal best while living safe and healthy lives. The journey has just begun. -Chat Daddy

Dear Chat Daddy, I am a 38-year-old single mother of a 16-year-old son. Lately, he has been struggling with school, and it has become such a frustrating situation for him. He has been talking about dropping out, and I am very upset because he is a very intelligent young man, and I don’t want him going down the wrong path in life. But already, he is starting to make stupid decisions. He idolizes my 30-year-old brother and feels that his uncle is the man! My brother has him thinking that he is a successful businessman (even though he works on no one’s job) and has everything together in his life. But in reality, my brother is just a high school dropout himself, a womanizer and he is living a less than acceptable lifestyle. I haven’t told my son the truth because I didn’t want to crush him with the news, but he is constantly talking about how he wants to be like him, and it worries me. I need to tell him because he is in a fantasy world and needs to know the real deal. -Exposing The Naked Truth

Dear Exposing The Naked Truth, Sister girl, this is definitely a hot mess. Dealing with family drama can be one of the most uncomfortable things we all must face. In order to bring peace into your household, the truth must be told. So let’s face it together. First of all, I would suggest that you sit down with your son and have a talk with him about living his best life ever. He needs to know that you love him unconditionally, despite what is going on, and that you are not satisfied with his behavior. Express to him that dropping out of school would be the biggest mistake of his life, and he has too much potential to just give up like that. Involve him in some mentoring programs where he can go and receive extra guidance and substance. Be honest with him by telling him the truth about his uncle because there is no point in allowing your son to idolize someone of that nature. Your brother’s lifestyle and actions are only a facade. Tell him to still respect, love and honor his uncle while encouraging him not to settle for less in his own personal life goals. By telling your son the truth now, it will keep him from living his life as a lie. Here’s to you and your son getting through this ordeal and him receiving the assistance that he needs in order to soar academically while developing into a great young man and have you beaming with pride as a proud parent.

Art “Chat Daddy” Sims can be reached via e-mail at chatdaddy@chicagodefender.com

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